What is Trauma?
A deeply distressing or disturbing experience.
A personal trauma like the death of a child.
Trauma is any one single event or reoccurring events that have caused mental, emotional and physical stress on the body.
People who experience depersonalization usually suffer from PTSD. Post traumatic stress disorder is the aftermath of suffering a stress. No, PTSD doesn’t just affect soldier who have come back from war, PTSD can happen to anyone at any age, including children. Our brain goes into a state of “shock” when we experience trauma, that shock is what brings on the depersonalization. It is a way for your brain to “disconnect” from reality and what happened as en effort to spare you emotional and phycological pain. However, most of the time depersonalization last longer than we would like for it, and that is when people start to question their sanity, and reality. They become so overwhelmed by their symptoms of depersonalization that it takes over the lives. A lot of people who suffer from depersonalization don’t have anyone to turn to because they are ashamed of their symptoms and think that nobody would understand then if they tried to explain themselves. Suffering in silence can lead to depression which is why its so important to find a “Safe” person who can talk to about your depersonalization symptoms.
But I Haven’t Experienced Any Trauma?
Trauma doesn’t mean a car accident or being a victim of rape, trauma can be subtle and chronic. Trauma can be stress at work, financial stress, relationship stress, victim of bullying, emotional abuse, childhood abuse, motherhood stress, death of a family or friend, postpartum depression, being in a abusive relationship with a narcissist.
Bottom line, if you suffer from depersonalization it means you have somewhere in your life experienced some sort of trauma.
Realization as Part of the Cure
The term “de-realization” is the a feeling that one’s surroundings are not real, which is the opposite of “realization” A huge part of the recovery process is to realize your trauma. This might be difficult because you might have to dig up year and years old memories going back to birth. Realizing what happened to you and understanding that it did actually happen with help you metabolize the trauma. Warning: going back to painful memories can trigger panic, anxiety and depression but it is crucial to actually allow yourself to feel the pain that comes with the trauma. A lot of times what happened with people who experience derealization is that they don’t remember what happened to them thats because their brain has shut off to protect them from feeling any pain, this is why depersonalization and derealization happens.